Justin G. Bautista
Writer
May 06, 2012
Big Boys Cry
Here's something that almost made me cry - toys on the verge of destruction.

It’s the scene from Toy Story 3 when Woody and his pals already accepted their demise. And then once more was when Andy played with his toys for the last time and gave them away. I mean, all men can relate to that. It’s just so hard to let go of your, um, action figures.

 

Remember the moment when you received a test sheet, scanned the rest of it and found it to be too long. After you’re done with it, you can already publish it as a book. Just looking ahead of that very long boring test, your eyes could water on its own because like it or not, you have to go through with it.

 

A guy in the name of Rob Dyrdek spent $700 Million on lottery tickets (paid in cash), on which the jackpot prize was $356 Million. The draw came, numbers arise, and surprise him. He lost. Nobody won on that draw. Talk about slap on the face, that’s worth crying to.

 

Men are taught to not show their weak emotions. Part of masculinity is to hold back tears, an attribute women typically exhibit. So to be a man is to be not a woman. Though, it doesn’t mean that men, over the years, have lost emotions. Men have estrogen as well. It’s undeniable; but rebuffing it is expected of men.

 

Big boys cry, perhaps not in public but there are instances that can make them cry. Losing a game of their favorite sports team could do the trick, but also try taking something they treasure so much, be it family, friends, or lunch. Ideally, breaking up with a girl too.

 

We all have our own story, isn’t it? Actually, there is one thing that can burst me every time. It’s a horrible experience; I’d want to forget about it; I’d want to get over it; I’d want it to mean nothing. But it just always make me cry – peeling onions.

 

Remember this episode in friends where Monica tried to tear up her beau Chandler?
 

 
When was the last time you cried or made your man cry?

 

  • http://eknoe.wordpress.com eknoe

    My kind of rule of thumb is that, anyone who has seen E.T and not choked up is a sociopath waiting to happen.

  • http://jennechrisville.wordpress.com jennechrisville

    I really get more emotional when I see men and boys cry.

  • http://sturner2.wordpress.com sturner2

    I think you stirred some emotion. I teared up today telling a story to a classroom of firefighters. It happens.

  • http://lazyhippiemama.wordpress.com lazyhippiemama

    My man cries when he sees someone he loves crying. And when he watches old black and white movies – though he tries to make sure I don’t notice that.

  • http://happy2bewithyou.wordpress.com happy2bewithyou

    Lovely narration…and most I liked is the name of your blog “Moment Matters”…how deep its meaning is:-)

  • http://thelastsongiheard.wordpress.com thelastsongiheard

    I only have to hear the right piece of music and tears will start to well in my eyes LOL

    • http://thelastsongiheard.wordpress.com thelastsongiheard

      Time To Say Goodbye, the theme to Saving Private Ryan and Into The West from Return Of The King… *sniffle*

  • http://elizamiddleton.wordpress.com wallancee

    I see my fiance cry too often. It’s because of the nature of our relationship – I live in Australia, he lives in the States. We see each other once every 6-9 months depending on his deployments and when I can get leave. We are so connected and so passionate that being apart for so long is something we feel so deeply (though me more than him obviously). But sometimes, some days, it gets too much and I see him cry.

    I must say, to see the man I adore, the man I look to for strength and protection (in a strange outdated way though I am terribly independent and pig-headed), to see him cry breaks me. I immediately want to fix the whole world, I feel I need to stand up and be the strong one and help him see that everything will be perfect in the end. It makes me realise that when I cry, just how hard it must be on him to watch (being on other sides of the world means we can’t even hold each other for comfort!). I try to learn from this and endeavour to be stronger for him, for us as we get through some tough times, because seeing someone you love hurting is truly devastating.

    I don’t think men shouldn’t cry, but when they do, it is such an overwhelming emotion for me, it really speaks to the situation (unless they are crying over a movie or onions of course :P ). It’s almost earth shattering, bringing into focus truly what is important – maybe because it is such a rare thing to see a man do, it has so much more power than a girl having a sob (though it does get us out of more traffic tickets than I think it would a guy)!

    • Justin G. Bautista

      Crying is rare for men. But when they do, it’s shattering!

    • http://elizamiddleton.wordpress.com wallancee

      There are some things that are just worth working for – it’s cliche etc etc but we know we are meant to be with each other and the passion and depth of emotion is so strong! It doesn’t happen a lot, and he’s a hard, tough, tattooed, pierced military man, but when he does cry, WHOA! Thanks for replying and the thought provoking post!

  • http://93percenttrue.wordpress.com Jimmy

    I love that scene in Toy Story 3… quite sad when the little girl finds that last, special toy in the box.

    • http://momentmatters.wordpress.com Moment Matters

      True. Finally, someone can relate to my Toy Story experience! We’re cool Jimmy

  • anlena

    This whole real man don’t cry seems rather stupid and outdated to me. Hopefully it is all changing.

  • http://mygulitypleasures.wordpress.com viveka

    I cried on Wednesday when my feet was aching so much that I had to stop dancing my Zumba. Just feed up with being a victim.

  • http://yourfriendtony.wordpress.com Tony Bird

    I read an article on Cracked the other day that discussed how older cultures viewed men crying much differently than ours does. If you read all the great epics like the Iliad, the Odyssey, and Beowulf, the uber manly heroes always have a weeping scene.

  • http://aspirebyroisinhealy.wordpress.com byroisinhealy

    Great friends clip! My man doesn’t cry! I have to get him Chicken Soup For the Soul, too.

    • Justin G. Bautista

      Try the “Monica way” too!

  • http://terry1954.wordpress.com terry1954

    i actually respect a man who can show all emotion, including crying

    • http://terry1954.wordpress.com terry1954

      well i guess i m different. i like a strong man, but i like a man who can show emotions also

    • http://momentmatters.wordpress.com Moment Matters

      that could be a conflicting combination, for men

    • http://terry1954.wordpress.com terry1954

      maybe, it depends what era you were brought up in

    • http://momentmatters.wordpress.com Moment Matters

      perhaps, I know what you mean

  • http://lifeinthemadness.wordpress.com Theodora Wrage

    Onions, yes they always get to me too, darn it all just when I thought I had it all together those onions have such a way about them don’t they!

    • Justin G. Bautista

      We should try that diving mask, covers the nose and eyes while dealing with onions.

  • http://wifemothereventplanner.com wifemothereventplanner

    My hubby almost tears up when he listens to Bruce Springsteen ….. When Clarence Clemmons died I thought I saw him well up a little. That’s about it.

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